Now, I agree, there are many men who are only out to please themselves, but there are also many men myself included who adore their wives and seek their pleasure above their own.
If executed correctly and with caution, a strong bond of trust can be formed between you and your partner.
After you and your partner discuss what activities are on the table when one of you is tied up perhaps that's spanking, nipple biting, and are and what's off-limits maybe you're not too keen on spitting or face slapping , the tying can begin.